For the last 5 years I have felt convinced that in order to find the love of my life the battle would be won in prayer. I did not realize just how true this thought process was going to prove to be. When you want to protect someone as a man it is very hard when the only thing you can do is pray. In fact it is very humbling. As a man I want to go in and end the battle in a show down. But this is not the way Adonai does things. All I can do is sit and wait and pray. Many many days I sit in tears and cry out in agony for her. She has no idea how much I love her and the things I pray for her. Lately I have been praying that the Holy Spirit would fill her, her daughters, and her home. Some days are just so hard, all I can do is say over and over I trust you Adonai. And I chose to trust her though I have no idea what is going on right now.
The bible says that as a man we should lay down our life for our wife. Eph 5:25. One thing that I had to learn (the easy way some how) was just what that verse meant. It was revealed through the bible rather than failure. And I am thankful for that, Question have you ever washed someones feet? Would you be willing do it in private? Would you do it in front of your church body? 12 men sat around a table talking with Yeshua. And the bible says he washed their feet. John 13:14 Think about it. Could you wash someones feet in with your friends? As you ponder that thought you get the sick feeling of humiliation coming over you. I am confident that we are to do this for real. But I am also confident that it was also symbolism. Humble yourself for your wife.
Men have 2 ego's one needs to be stroked and built up. (Wife this is your job to learn how to do this the right way) The other ego is the one I want to talk about. That ego says ME & I (Beware of this link It is satire to the extreme to make the point) As men we can be so freakin selfish,prideful and arrogant. We don't want to listen we don't want to take the time reach out to her emotional needs. Why? Because if we do what then? I purpose when you engage your wife and listen to her for 5 seconds. Hit the repeat button over and over. 5 seconds 5 seconds 5 seconds. In other words shut up. Listen to her. If she needs you to do something, Consider what she is saying. If you don't want to do it because you don't want to do it . DO IT ANYWAY! If she is not asking you to do something. SHUT UP and LISTEN.
In this journey of mine hoping that this girl that I love so much will find that I am worth keeping. I have found that humbleness has been revealed through helplessness. She has been hurt so many times I could just sit and cry for her for days. But that wouldn't help much. So I pray. I pray that Adonai will protect our relationship. I pray that He will fill her with the comforter.John 14:16 I pray that she will be protected. And that she wont believe lies about her self. If you are married husband, Please read this book Power of a Praying Husband. Just know this lay your pride down be vulnerable with Adonai, admit you just don't know what to do. Then ask for Him to inspire prayer He will answer for her. Sit back and watch your Abba reveal just how much He cares about both of you. Above all don't give up She is worth fighting for.
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Sunday, December 18, 2011
Monday, December 12, 2011
She is Worth it! (I thought)
when I wrote this blog sometime ago I thought I found a gal that I truely wanted and I thought she felt the same. The truth was that I was trying to bury something deep inside because I didn't have the faith to believe it to be true. You see my heart did not really belong to this woman that I had orignally posted about here. I was willing to except her because she was real. I could see her and talk to her.
The other gal that truly had and still has my heart was not real to me at that time. And frankly I still struggle with that because I still can't talk to her or see her. but for those who re-read this edited blog to what is here now you will see some new blogs come up pretty fast if all goes well. Poetry and things like that. Most of which is about the woman whom I have decided that I am going to do all that I can do to remain holding fast in a faith patern until answers are giving. I may even post some of the wierd things that have occured between YHVH and I regarding prayer about this woman. Right now all I know is that I could not allow this blog to remain in the context that it was.
I don't know if the wman who has my heart will ever be given me. But some of my blogs will reflect my feelings about her. These blogs will be show the orginal creation date which in most cases is some years ago. With a few that are more current.
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Saturday, December 10, 2011
Heal "My" Land?
A couple months ago I started praying this verse on a personal level. Suddenly today it became a desperate prayer. You see I lost my children and wife to a divorce that was started over child abuse. I won't go into much detail but I will say that justice was not served by the court system. In the last few weeks I have been given something of a second chance with 2 beautiful little girls who have seen to much pain be put on their mother. Over the last weeks I have learned about what faith can do in a relationship that was began from the ashes of pain and rejection.
Today I have very little money and a job that pays by commission. Not exactly the way I wanted it. But right now I stand on this verse. I sit quiet and wait for YHVH to provide. In fact I look to my "Papa" to reveal Himself. I look for His love based on the mercy that the bible says He has. In seeking His love by faith alone I have found it in a way that I did not expect at all.
2Ch 7:14 If my people, which are called by my name, shall humble themselves, and pray, and seek my face, and turn from their wicked ways; then will I hear from heaven, and will forgive their sin, and will heal their land.
I await the healing of my land. And while I wait. I seek to show Him my love.
Joh 14:21 Those who obey my commandments are the ones who love me. And because they love me, my Father will love them, and I will love them. And I will reveal myself to each one of them."
Today I have very little money and a job that pays by commission. Not exactly the way I wanted it. But right now I stand on this verse. I sit quiet and wait for YHVH to provide. In fact I look to my "Papa" to reveal Himself. I look for His love based on the mercy that the bible says He has. In seeking His love by faith alone I have found it in a way that I did not expect at all.
2Ch 7:14 If my people, which are called by my name, shall humble themselves, and pray, and seek my face, and turn from their wicked ways; then will I hear from heaven, and will forgive their sin, and will heal their land.
I await the healing of my land. And while I wait. I seek to show Him my love.
Joh 14:21 Those who obey my commandments are the ones who love me. And because they love me, my Father will love them, and I will love them. And I will reveal myself to each one of them."
This is Important
This will be a list of fruits of the spirit, The question that should stand in your mind is this. Do you have any care about the following? If the answer is "not much" maybe it is time to ask Adonai who you are to Him.
Gal 5:22 But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, longsuffering, gentleness, goodness, faith,
Gal 5:23 Meekness, temperance: against such there is no law.
Gal 5:24 And they that are the Messiahs have crucified the flesh with the affections and lusts.
1Pe 1:5 Who are kept by the power of YHVH through faith unto salvation ready to be revealed in the last time.
1Pe 1:6 Wherein ye greatly rejoice, though now for a season, if need be, ye are in heaviness through manifold temptations:
1Pe 1:7 That the trial of your faith, being much more precious than of gold that perisheth, though it be tried with fire, might be found unto praise and honour and glory at the appearing of Yeshua the Messiah:
1Pe 1:8 Whom having not seen, ye love; in whom, though now ye see him not, yet believing, ye rejoice with joy unspeakable and full of glory:
1Pe 1:9 Receiving the end of your faith, even the salvation of your souls.
1Pe 1:10 Of which salvation the prophets have enquired and searched diligently, who prophesied of the grace that should come unto you:
2Co 6:4 But in all things approving ourselves as the ministers of Elohim, in much patience, in afflictions, in necessities, in distresses,
2Co 6:5 In stripes, in imprisonments, in tumults, in labours, in watchings, in fastings;
2Co 6:6 By pureness, by knowledge, by longsuffering, by kindness, by the Holy Spirit, by love unfeigned,
2Co 6:7 By the word of truth, by the power of Elohim, by the armour of righteousness on the right hand and on the left,
2Co 6:8 By honour and dishonour, by evil report and good report: as deceivers, and yet true;
2Co 6:9 As unknown, and yet well known; as dying, and, behold, we live; as chastened, and not killed;
2Co 6:10 As sorrowful, yet alway rejoicing; as poor, yet making many rich; as having nothing, and yet possessing all things.
2Co 8:7 Therefore, as ye abound in every thing, in faith, and utterance, and knowledge, and in all diligence, and in your love to us, see that ye abound in this grace also.
2Co 8:8 I speak not by commandment, but by occasion of the forwardness of others, and to prove the sincerity of your love.
Gal 5:22 But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, longsuffering, gentleness, goodness, faith,
Gal 5:23 Meekness, temperance: against such there is no law.
Gal 5:24 And they that are the Messiahs have crucified the flesh with the affections and lusts.
1Pe 1:5 Who are kept by the power of YHVH through faith unto salvation ready to be revealed in the last time.
1Pe 1:6 Wherein ye greatly rejoice, though now for a season, if need be, ye are in heaviness through manifold temptations:
1Pe 1:7 That the trial of your faith, being much more precious than of gold that perisheth, though it be tried with fire, might be found unto praise and honour and glory at the appearing of Yeshua the Messiah:
1Pe 1:8 Whom having not seen, ye love; in whom, though now ye see him not, yet believing, ye rejoice with joy unspeakable and full of glory:
1Pe 1:9 Receiving the end of your faith, even the salvation of your souls.
1Pe 1:10 Of which salvation the prophets have enquired and searched diligently, who prophesied of the grace that should come unto you:
2Co 6:4 But in all things approving ourselves as the ministers of Elohim, in much patience, in afflictions, in necessities, in distresses,
2Co 6:5 In stripes, in imprisonments, in tumults, in labours, in watchings, in fastings;
2Co 6:6 By pureness, by knowledge, by longsuffering, by kindness, by the Holy Spirit, by love unfeigned,
2Co 6:7 By the word of truth, by the power of Elohim, by the armour of righteousness on the right hand and on the left,
2Co 6:8 By honour and dishonour, by evil report and good report: as deceivers, and yet true;
2Co 6:9 As unknown, and yet well known; as dying, and, behold, we live; as chastened, and not killed;
2Co 6:10 As sorrowful, yet alway rejoicing; as poor, yet making many rich; as having nothing, and yet possessing all things.
2Co 8:7 Therefore, as ye abound in every thing, in faith, and utterance, and knowledge, and in all diligence, and in your love to us, see that ye abound in this grace also.
2Co 8:8 I speak not by commandment, but by occasion of the forwardness of others, and to prove the sincerity of your love.
Monday, October 31, 2011
Priorities & Foundations
Adonai is the foundation in which my entire life & all contents lay. Without Him there is no foundation for my potential wife to stand. As a result She will be my number 1 on the Foundation that holds all of my life
I have seen pastors break up our lives by priority into a pie graf. Adonai is always the biggest piece. The wife and children. I believe this concept in error.
In a pie there is a common bond for each piece of the pie, the crust.
To place Adonai as any piece of the pie whether big or small and place Him in a compartment rather than all encompassing of every piece as the crust does is in a way to separate Him from the other pieces. I personally would never want my wife and children to have part of a priority of my life that does not lay on the foundation of Yeshua.
To create a word picture of a my pie graf. My wife would get 50% of my pie our children would get 25% and the finale 25% is divided work, friends, ministry,ect. But my crust laying underneath all those pieces will remain Adonai my savior Yeshua. All my my life will rest on Him. Everything and every piece of my life.
I have found that christian women claim to desire a man who makes Adonai number 1 over them. I believe that if those wonderful ladies were to consider this thought they would find that they want to be Number 1 & Adonai to be the all encompassing.
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Thursday, October 27, 2011
Sex is not sin.
This blog was inspired by someone saying "sex is just a urge us weak people can not withstand" This was a offensive statement to me because it reflects the idea of a biblical thought that is simply not true. This idea promotes defeat. I am just a weak individual & until God gives me the ability not to fail I have no choice. I know this because I fell into it for a time. Rom 6:6 says that sin is powerless over us because of Yeshua. If that is true then our ability is from Him is given "past tence" How often is our prayer lost on things already given? So if this battle is won how can we improve our own personal success rate of not falling to "immoral sex" The answer is by realizing sin has a promise and Adonai has a promise as well. One promise is short term gratification. The other may take some time to get to. The question now becomes who's promise do you want to chase?
To make it real lets use me as an example. I was married but my wife wanted out. So I let her go. However now I am a guy who has needs. My sexual needs reigned over my life until I realized to chase the promise. The bible says that He does not withhold from those He loves. I found a girl that I would do almost anything for. However I have not talked to her in years. However this is what she does to me to just think her name "Rachel" I suddenly find that I strive to obey Adonai. She is part of my promise."in faith" Now I stand clear of sexual immorality in pursuance of that promise. My strength in Adonai is realized to me because I am faithfully chasing His promise & telling false promise to ***s off. Sex was not my weakness ignorance of The Word was! Sex is a precious gift that we should not squander. It is part of the intimate bond that husband and wife have. And it reveals the character of Adonai. Marriage reveals a part of Him that we as people could not see without it. And sex is the deepest revealing of intimacy between man and wife. Therefore one of the greatest gifts from Him. I would rather reveal the character of Adonai through marriage than speak in tongues of angels.
Monday, October 24, 2011
Why Are All The Good Men Taken? Part 1
In answer to this question I had created an outline that I was going to make into a video but because of a promise made to the woman who inspired this blog I am moving ahead with a printed format. There are 5 points to answer this question.
A:It is not that they are taken, the problem is that they are no longer being made anymore. Women have a certain way they all want to be treated. And in the basic aspects that treatment is the same no matter what woman we are talking about. The problem is that the secular world has infiltrated the biblical man to such a degree he is no longer standing on his faith seeking the face of his Adonai, but rather trying to find ways of justifying his sinful thought life and behavior and therefore constantly focusing on a self centered motivation for the remaining balance of his life.
What do all women want in a man?
B:Identifying a good man when you see one.
The answer to this can be found in the bible. If you do not support belief in the bible please set that aside and just look at the aspects that are being talked about in this section.
Gal 5:22-24 Is a listing of the fruits of the spirit. And the desire of any woman alive. Love, joy, peace, long suffering, gentleness, goodness, faith, Meekness, and temperance. Lets break this list down and give the reader some definition. The love talked about here is not the what we Americans understand as love. The words originally used was agape/agapo. This has a huge explanation behind it and I am going to simplify it as best I can. Women know they are sexually desirable, they also get the idea that some of us men want to be friends with them. These are two forms of love that are easy. The last gets complicated. This kind of love is a love of sacrifice. It is about setting pride down and not focusing on selfish desire. It is about giving what your spouse needs especially when they don't seemingly deserve it. Lets skip a few in the list and land on long suffering. This is one of the things that men really really struggle with. This is where the mercy and compassion of your man will either stand or fall. Most people of today can't even define long suffering as anything other than suffering and there for they stand against it. And there spouse pays the price. What is long suffering? Real simple its when you (the woman) have said some barbed tongue comment that was a little over kill at some stupid thing he may or may not have done they way you thought it should have been done, and his response is not scorn returned or lashing out in any way. But to speak to you using the rest of the list. So picture that you have said something to him that was down right mean And his response reflects these traits. gentleness, goodness, faith (in you),joy, peace and temperance (remaining calm instead of letting his anger get the better of him). Yet in that list there is one missing, meekness. And this is just as important as the others but needs to be defined. So in his answer to you he has reflected not only those traits above but also instead of wining at you for being mean he responds in meekness. Meaning he does not complain at what you have said he gives you a soft loving reply instead of a counter attack. Whether it be passive or aggressive in nature.
It is believed by most Christians that the fruits of the spirit can not be manifest in a persons life unless God places them there. Meaning that a person needs to be a faithful believer. I personally agree with this idea however you are welcome to attempt to embrace these unselfish traits with out it and test it out for yourself.
C:Do you really want a good man /D:Mistakes
The real question is do you want what comes with a man like this? Yes he will treat you well but he is also going to stand on some solid principles and rules that he will not fault from. For instants if you decide you want him sexually before marriage you will either get an answer of no, or you causing a temptation that will cause him to stumble. If he does stumble the fruits of the spirit will begin to melt away and he will no longer be the good man you desired in the first place. He will also not let you be cruel to others. He may even protect you from yourself. Such as by not letting you attack a long time friend and ruin the friendship just because your friend did something to tick you off. He will do what he can to get you to default to the list above. Yes ladies that list is also the same list of measure to tell whether you are a good woman or not.
E:How to begin keeping a good man and help him stay that way.
The answer to this is found in two ways I am not going to address either of them. I am going to find a woman who can answer this question. Because I am a man I have no clue how a woman should reflect the fruits of the spirit to her man. Nor do I have any idea what a proverbs woman really is or what motivates her to be one. All I know is that I trust the bible and therefore I personally desire a woman who at least wants to be a proverbs woman. I will be asking some women in the near future to complete the last piece. But I really have no clue if I will be able to find one.
If I find one either she will comment on this article or there will be a part 2 which ever she chooses to do.
I do know of one proverbs woman. But alas even a proverbs woman can be hurt and right now she is in a place of deep pain. I know this because this is the woman who has captured my heart and I pray for her daily in faith waiting for my Adonai to open that door if He will. I dare say When my dad gave his blessing as long as I remain in the words above, this was a major stepping stone in my believing I should wait for her and her alone.
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A:It is not that they are taken, the problem is that they are no longer being made anymore. Women have a certain way they all want to be treated. And in the basic aspects that treatment is the same no matter what woman we are talking about. The problem is that the secular world has infiltrated the biblical man to such a degree he is no longer standing on his faith seeking the face of his Adonai, but rather trying to find ways of justifying his sinful thought life and behavior and therefore constantly focusing on a self centered motivation for the remaining balance of his life.
What do all women want in a man?
B:Identifying a good man when you see one.
The answer to this can be found in the bible. If you do not support belief in the bible please set that aside and just look at the aspects that are being talked about in this section.
Gal 5:22-24 Is a listing of the fruits of the spirit. And the desire of any woman alive. Love, joy, peace, long suffering, gentleness, goodness, faith, Meekness, and temperance. Lets break this list down and give the reader some definition. The love talked about here is not the what we Americans understand as love. The words originally used was agape/agapo. This has a huge explanation behind it and I am going to simplify it as best I can. Women know they are sexually desirable, they also get the idea that some of us men want to be friends with them. These are two forms of love that are easy. The last gets complicated. This kind of love is a love of sacrifice. It is about setting pride down and not focusing on selfish desire. It is about giving what your spouse needs especially when they don't seemingly deserve it. Lets skip a few in the list and land on long suffering. This is one of the things that men really really struggle with. This is where the mercy and compassion of your man will either stand or fall. Most people of today can't even define long suffering as anything other than suffering and there for they stand against it. And there spouse pays the price. What is long suffering? Real simple its when you (the woman) have said some barbed tongue comment that was a little over kill at some stupid thing he may or may not have done they way you thought it should have been done, and his response is not scorn returned or lashing out in any way. But to speak to you using the rest of the list. So picture that you have said something to him that was down right mean And his response reflects these traits. gentleness, goodness, faith (in you),joy, peace and temperance (remaining calm instead of letting his anger get the better of him). Yet in that list there is one missing, meekness. And this is just as important as the others but needs to be defined. So in his answer to you he has reflected not only those traits above but also instead of wining at you for being mean he responds in meekness. Meaning he does not complain at what you have said he gives you a soft loving reply instead of a counter attack. Whether it be passive or aggressive in nature.
It is believed by most Christians that the fruits of the spirit can not be manifest in a persons life unless God places them there. Meaning that a person needs to be a faithful believer. I personally agree with this idea however you are welcome to attempt to embrace these unselfish traits with out it and test it out for yourself.
C:Do you really want a good man /D:Mistakes
The real question is do you want what comes with a man like this? Yes he will treat you well but he is also going to stand on some solid principles and rules that he will not fault from. For instants if you decide you want him sexually before marriage you will either get an answer of no, or you causing a temptation that will cause him to stumble. If he does stumble the fruits of the spirit will begin to melt away and he will no longer be the good man you desired in the first place. He will also not let you be cruel to others. He may even protect you from yourself. Such as by not letting you attack a long time friend and ruin the friendship just because your friend did something to tick you off. He will do what he can to get you to default to the list above. Yes ladies that list is also the same list of measure to tell whether you are a good woman or not.
E:How to begin keeping a good man and help him stay that way.
The answer to this is found in two ways I am not going to address either of them. I am going to find a woman who can answer this question. Because I am a man I have no clue how a woman should reflect the fruits of the spirit to her man. Nor do I have any idea what a proverbs woman really is or what motivates her to be one. All I know is that I trust the bible and therefore I personally desire a woman who at least wants to be a proverbs woman. I will be asking some women in the near future to complete the last piece. But I really have no clue if I will be able to find one.
If I find one either she will comment on this article or there will be a part 2 which ever she chooses to do.
I do know of one proverbs woman. But alas even a proverbs woman can be hurt and right now she is in a place of deep pain. I know this because this is the woman who has captured my heart and I pray for her daily in faith waiting for my Adonai to open that door if He will. I dare say When my dad gave his blessing as long as I remain in the words above, this was a major stepping stone in my believing I should wait for her and her alone.
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To the Men who are viewing this please consider linking over to another old blog that I have done, and taking the time to listen to the audio by Paul Washer.
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Monday, September 12, 2011
Forgiveness
I just watched "The Grace Card" the movie was little more than I expected until the end. This blog is about pain & forgiveness. And the poison of unforgiveness.
My ex-wife did caused so much pain that I had to separate. She was convicted of child abuse. After conviction, little changed. I won't go into details.
She also did things to me that was written in the original book The Art of War.
In the end she took my babies away from me and cut me off from seeing them until I can afford to fight her on it.
All my family feels she is a horrible woman.
If Adonia told me to return to her I surely would do it. Not because of desire ,or not letting go. But rather forgiveness and biblical charity. Though I doubt this will happen.
I can not stress enough how important it is to forgive those people who have hurt you the deepest. Find an old King James bible. Find the word charity,read the verses try and figure out what exactly the word means. American charity is NOT biblical charity.
My ex-wife did caused so much pain that I had to separate. She was convicted of child abuse. After conviction, little changed. I won't go into details.
She also did things to me that was written in the original book The Art of War.
In the end she took my babies away from me and cut me off from seeing them until I can afford to fight her on it.
All my family feels she is a horrible woman.
If Adonia told me to return to her I surely would do it. Not because of desire ,or not letting go. But rather forgiveness and biblical charity. Though I doubt this will happen.
I can not stress enough how important it is to forgive those people who have hurt you the deepest. Find an old King James bible. Find the word charity,read the verses try and figure out what exactly the word means. American charity is NOT biblical charity.
Whats In A Name?
Some years ago I was a telemarketer. I would have s screen pop up on my screen with a name on it. Then my head set would start ringing.  Some of the names that came across on my screen were impossible for my American mind to figure out. One that really stumped me was Ngo. Spanish names were also hard at times. Anything with a letter combination that did not work for American English to figure out made things difficult. To make matters worse when you pronounce a name wrong people get offended. I mean really mad. It's a respect issue. People feel disrespected when you say their name wrong. This started an idea in my thinking about should we be careful to pronounce names? How about should we be careful to know the names of those we talk to. My idea here is this. If it is disrespect to call a person by the wrong name then it is more disrespectful to call the God we serve by improper names. Yes He is big enough to handle it. But should we be more reverent than that for the god we call Adonia (the Lord) I am daring to say maybe it's better to error on the side of reverence than disrespect.
Monday, August 29, 2011
A Prayers Chance
Have you ever spent any time in a place where your faith is all you have? You believe that Adonia is telling you the best will come, however circumstance screams of how impossible the situation is to improve. Then you get attacked with discouragement. Shortly after that fleshly temptations will follow, You are feeling so down the temptation weighs in against what is right.
Many times in the last weeks I have faced this horrible place. All I have been able to find to fight this battle is to make the choice to believe in Yeshua's love (agape)despite the fact that it feels very hidden. Most times it is of great benefit to verbalize this choice several times over. Then pray about the situation. I personally have seen the situation degrade in hours because of a failure in the temptation stage. This has happened to me many times. I always felt that it was to make a point, sin hinders prayer. And something willbe coming that I could not afford to loose over something stupid.
When we pull through the time of temptation it is easy to expect something great to suddenly happen. This most times will not. However rest in the fact that your prayers have not been hindered, then strive to find what ever evidence of Yeshua's love love that can be found.
And remember to hang on to the faith that even if you can't see it, it is there somewhere. The bible says faith is attributed as righteousness.
Monday, August 22, 2011
Leading to Honesty
I figured something out some years ago about honesty. I made it part of my life. But in the last few days I have had the idea resurface. I am on a few social networks and on one in particular I have been seeing a lot of ladies wishing they could find honest men. I feel for the non christian ladies as thier plight is near hopeless. But that is to digress.
I want to aim this post not so much at women but rather men and parrents. And hope that lady readers will apply it through common sense understanding. First men who want honest wives or girlfriends. Men have anger issues. As a man I think we all do to some degree. The question is when a situation arises do you as the man promote an honest response. 1 Peter 3:7 This verse is critical to promoting honesty in your wife. Please take the time right now to look it up. Here is a short list of questions that if answered incorrectly will promote dishonesty in your wife.
Do you guilt trip?
Do you manipulate?
Do you accuse her of being unloving?
Do you yell and scream?
Do you get overly angry?
Do you accuse her of anything out of line for the situation?
The wrong answer to any one of those questions on a consistent basis will promote a lying behaivior in your wife. You are making the effort of honesty not worth the pain of it.
Col 3:21
The last time your child was caught unaware in the cookie jar, how did you approach the situation? More than likely you asked them if they were into it. Now comes the point of impact, will they lie or tell the truth. Question time.
Do you sweat the small stuff?
Do you discipline over spilled milk literally?
Does the discipline fit the crime when discipline is nesisary?
Do you belittle or humiliate them?
If you over kill for the small stuff do you under kill for big stuff making you unpredictable.
How you speak to both children and spouse will either make or brake honesty. Eph 4:29
"It is better to be thought a fool than to speak up and remove all doubt" Ben Franklin
I want to aim this post not so much at women but rather men and parrents. And hope that lady readers will apply it through common sense understanding. First men who want honest wives or girlfriends. Men have anger issues. As a man I think we all do to some degree. The question is when a situation arises do you as the man promote an honest response. 1 Peter 3:7 This verse is critical to promoting honesty in your wife. Please take the time right now to look it up. Here is a short list of questions that if answered incorrectly will promote dishonesty in your wife.
Do you guilt trip?
Do you manipulate?
Do you accuse her of being unloving?
Do you yell and scream?
Do you get overly angry?
Do you accuse her of anything out of line for the situation?
The wrong answer to any one of those questions on a consistent basis will promote a lying behaivior in your wife. You are making the effort of honesty not worth the pain of it.
Col 3:21
The last time your child was caught unaware in the cookie jar, how did you approach the situation? More than likely you asked them if they were into it. Now comes the point of impact, will they lie or tell the truth. Question time.
Do you sweat the small stuff?
Do you discipline over spilled milk literally?
Does the discipline fit the crime when discipline is nesisary?
Do you belittle or humiliate them?
If you over kill for the small stuff do you under kill for big stuff making you unpredictable.
How you speak to both children and spouse will either make or brake honesty. Eph 4:29
"It is better to be thought a fool than to speak up and remove all doubt" Ben Franklin
Saturday, August 20, 2011
Ignighters Car Show.
The town that I am staying in had a free car show so I walked to town and took a look and tried not to drool on any ones car. Though I strive to keep my head clear of material items these fine American machines still get my attention. Here is some pictures..
68 GTO
67 Cobra
GT 350
70 AAR Cuda
69 Camaro SS
68 GTO
67 Cobra
GT 350
70 AAR Cuda
69 Camaro SS
Friday, August 19, 2011
Should we Expect Reward?
This is a reply I was posting on a forum and decided I liked how well it was coming out so I decided to blog it. I dare not post the other persons quote without permission. So I am apologize for some of this that may seem a little odd because it was in reply to implied post. However I will say that he/she said that in faith we should take action in our faith without expectation of a reward. Below is my reply.
If we expect no reward, does that not mean we truly don't believe His word. The bible is full of promises of reward. The greatest reward is of coarse God himself. But if I read this correctly (and I may not have) to try and take action toward God with no expectation of reward from him whatsoever is to try and take action with disinterest. I desire to do the good that the bible commands simply for just that the promises of the bible being revealed.
Ps 37:7 PS 145:19 Mat 6:33 Each of these verse have promise in them. And each one has a command in it as well. Our focus should be on the command not the promise. Focusing on the promise to much creates bitterness when things are not going well. However focusing on the command and believing that the bible is true and we can stand on the promises is key to a enduring faith. When you stand on a large rock playing king of the hill you do not focus on the rock but on the task of holding your position on the rock. Standing on the promises of God is much the same as that battle. The world,satan, and flesh wants to take us off the rock of salvation (aka biblical promise) Do I expect that God will give me all my [b][u]wants[/u][/b]. No. But I do expect to receive my desires. And since the bible says that our heart is renewed, I will conclude that wants are much of the time fleshly and real desires align with what God wants. The real hard part is knowing the difference.
If we expect no reward, does that not mean we truly don't believe His word. The bible is full of promises of reward. The greatest reward is of coarse God himself. But if I read this correctly (and I may not have) to try and take action toward God with no expectation of reward from him whatsoever is to try and take action with disinterest. I desire to do the good that the bible commands simply for just that the promises of the bible being revealed.
Ps 37:7 PS 145:19 Mat 6:33 Each of these verse have promise in them. And each one has a command in it as well. Our focus should be on the command not the promise. Focusing on the promise to much creates bitterness when things are not going well. However focusing on the command and believing that the bible is true and we can stand on the promises is key to a enduring faith. When you stand on a large rock playing king of the hill you do not focus on the rock but on the task of holding your position on the rock. Standing on the promises of God is much the same as that battle. The world,satan, and flesh wants to take us off the rock of salvation (aka biblical promise) Do I expect that God will give me all my [b][u]wants[/u][/b]. No. But I do expect to receive my desires. And since the bible says that our heart is renewed, I will conclude that wants are much of the time fleshly and real desires align with what God wants. The real hard part is knowing the difference.
Our Pleasure in Yahweh Vs Our Pain.
As you know I have children. However I have not seen them in sometime. It was a nasty divorce and because of a feminist judge I lost everything. Right now I am trying to find a gainful employment to recover as much as I can. But that is another topic that I may or may not cover at some point.
Since loosing my children I became full of pain. I hurt because I failed them. I hurt because I felt like Adonia failed me. I have done my best to grow beyond these pains without letting go of my children. In this process I have held on to much pain and not willing to let it go. Mostly because I miss my children and don't want to loose any more of them than I have. But in the search for understanding Gods love I came across a book in which I am reading. It introduced the idea that holding on to the pains of the past can be a deadly hindrance in finding pleasure in who Yahweh as a whole really is. Or taking pleasure in His true nature and character. This road will be a hard one for me to travel but I will post things that come out over the coarse of the road.
The first thing that hit me was that in holding on to the pain such as I did has caused a barrier or shield between Adonia and myself. This was revealed when I screamed into the air why is it a sin for me to hurt. The answer was that the hurt was not a sin but the hanging onto it and letting shape much of who I am was. And that is what I know I have been doing. I wonder if this is why Yahweh has been withholding a deeper committed relationship aka to find a christian spouse. I can see plainly how it pertains. It does affect me and the way I handle life in general. So I am doing my best to find the pleasure of Yahweh's full character and trying to cope with some deep pains. A deep pain of rejection starting with some attitudes that my dad showed me when I was younger and still maintains those same disappointments in all that I am today. Don't worry forgiveness will be easy here it has been for a few years now. The other source of rejection has been because of relationships with the opposite sex especially my ex-wife. When she told me that she would do what it took to drive me off and did exactly that. The last feeling of rejection is direct from Adonia. Mind you I understand this is just a feeling. However when you greatly desire to take care of your own responsibilities such as paying child support and every job you try fails it becomes a source of pain. And in ignorance you begin to grapple with the understanding of what is going on any way you can which can mean that you come to a wrong conclusion toward the nature of Adonia's intentions over the suffering in question.
I pray that as I go through this struggle and post what I learn here that some of the readers will find some resolution to their own struggles with pain. In a past post I left my face book and twitter available please consider that you have any questions or comments about this issue feel free to contact me there. I will be posting again shortly on this subject as I face the pain of letting go of the pain that I have held onto so dearly for the last 6 years.
Since loosing my children I became full of pain. I hurt because I failed them. I hurt because I felt like Adonia failed me. I have done my best to grow beyond these pains without letting go of my children. In this process I have held on to much pain and not willing to let it go. Mostly because I miss my children and don't want to loose any more of them than I have. But in the search for understanding Gods love I came across a book in which I am reading. It introduced the idea that holding on to the pains of the past can be a deadly hindrance in finding pleasure in who Yahweh as a whole really is. Or taking pleasure in His true nature and character. This road will be a hard one for me to travel but I will post things that come out over the coarse of the road.
The first thing that hit me was that in holding on to the pain such as I did has caused a barrier or shield between Adonia and myself. This was revealed when I screamed into the air why is it a sin for me to hurt. The answer was that the hurt was not a sin but the hanging onto it and letting shape much of who I am was. And that is what I know I have been doing. I wonder if this is why Yahweh has been withholding a deeper committed relationship aka to find a christian spouse. I can see plainly how it pertains. It does affect me and the way I handle life in general. So I am doing my best to find the pleasure of Yahweh's full character and trying to cope with some deep pains. A deep pain of rejection starting with some attitudes that my dad showed me when I was younger and still maintains those same disappointments in all that I am today. Don't worry forgiveness will be easy here it has been for a few years now. The other source of rejection has been because of relationships with the opposite sex especially my ex-wife. When she told me that she would do what it took to drive me off and did exactly that. The last feeling of rejection is direct from Adonia. Mind you I understand this is just a feeling. However when you greatly desire to take care of your own responsibilities such as paying child support and every job you try fails it becomes a source of pain. And in ignorance you begin to grapple with the understanding of what is going on any way you can which can mean that you come to a wrong conclusion toward the nature of Adonia's intentions over the suffering in question.
I pray that as I go through this struggle and post what I learn here that some of the readers will find some resolution to their own struggles with pain. In a past post I left my face book and twitter available please consider that you have any questions or comments about this issue feel free to contact me there. I will be posting again shortly on this subject as I face the pain of letting go of the pain that I have held onto so dearly for the last 6 years.
Thoughts on Children
This was a blog I originally had posted elsewhere and decided to close down that blog and do this one. I should let you know that yes I am a parent of 3 children. I believe that if more parents were to understand what is being taught in the bible and showing it to there children it would change the outcome of so many relational problems between the two generations. Here is my old blog
Should Children Obey their Parents in any given situation? That is something a child must face every day. I remember asking myself many times what was the chance I would get away with something versus that I would get caught. When I got to be a teen My parents started attending church and quoting these versus to me. My dad was always yelling at me about it, probably because I rarely did it. Now the bible says this about it:
Eph 6:1 Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right.
Eph 6:2 HONOR YOUR FATHER AND MOTHER (which is the first commandment with a promise),
Eph 6:3 THAT IT MAY BE WELL WITH YOU, AND THAT YOU MAY LIVE LONG ON THE EARTH.
But there is several things that are over looked about pushing this bible text on your children.
Let me ask you this Dad. What would happen if you preach this to your wife?
Col 3:18 Wives, submit to your own husbands, as is fitting in the Lord.
I have tried this on a occasion or two. I have asked other men about it. They all laugh In other words it is a good way to get your self put in the dog house. This is NOT something we should go yelling at our wives. (This will be talked about on another blog)
We know that yelling at our wives about that bible verse makes her mad in many senses you would be provoking a fight with her. Very very few women will tolerate having this shoved down their throat . But we yell at our kids all the time. "Bible says obey your parents. So we shout this verse at our kids and expect a good reaction out of them when we know for a fact that our wives will refused to cook dinner for a week over this. Why do women react so badly after all its just the bible right? Because it is a insult its is flat out provoking your wife.
Eph 6:4 And, fathers, do not provoke your children to anger; but bring them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord.
Notice the Key words "do NOT provoke" (emphasis added) The question should become then How do we correct with out provoking?
Eph 4:15 but speaking the truth in love, we are to grow up in all aspects into Him, who is the head, even Christ,
Eph 4:16 from whom the whole body, being fitted and held together by that which every joint supplies, according to the proper working of each individual part, causes the growth of the body for the building up of itself in love.
1Co 13:4 Love is patient, love is kind, and is not jealous; love does not brag and is not arrogant,
1Co 13:5 does not act unbecomingly; it does not seek its own, is not provoked, does not take into account a wrong suffered,
1Co 13:6 does not rejoice in unrighteousness, but rejoices with the truth;
1Co 13:7 bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.
The next time you feel the urge to let your kids have it ponder their reaction to it. If you yell and holler and boss them around in a non loving fashion this is provoking them is it not? If your boss comes up yelling screaming and cussing at you what do you feel like? Humiliated put down discounted and with out value. And it is only fear of the loss of your job that restrains you from turning right around and giving your boss what he is giving you. I have even felt extreme anger because of a boss treating me badly. hoping that they get a flat tire on the way home from work or that they get a ticket for one mile an hour over. People flat out hate being humiliated. Your kids are no different. If you come up to your kid and shout at them something like "I can't believe you did something so stupid." In their mind you just said kid your stupid. Then they get angry in anger they react in disobedience. Even if it is just in there own minds by simply thinking I hate my parents. God hears that even when you don't. By them hating you they are NOT honoring you. And that takes away the promise that was offered. And you provoked it.
If you are not correcting your child in love then you are provoking to anger. Which means that you are acting as a stumbling block to your child.
Mat 18:6 but whoever causes one of these little ones who believe in Me to stumble, it is better for him that a heavy millstone be hung around his neck, and that he be drowned in the depth of the sea.
A finishing suggestion. Next time you need to correct your children. Stop and pray about it pick your bible ask God to lead you to verses that just might help you know what to do. And ask HIM simply Lord what is the appropriate reaction to this. In many cases you might just find that it simply is not worth the argument because it just might be to petty.
Footnote
All bible next was from Nasb printed 1977. All bible text is in red to help differentiate from my words and the official bible text. It does NOT indicate that Jesus stated it.
Should Children Obey their Parents in any given situation? That is something a child must face every day. I remember asking myself many times what was the chance I would get away with something versus that I would get caught. When I got to be a teen My parents started attending church and quoting these versus to me. My dad was always yelling at me about it, probably because I rarely did it. Now the bible says this about it:
Eph 6:1 Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right.
Eph 6:2 HONOR YOUR FATHER AND MOTHER (which is the first commandment with a promise),
Eph 6:3 THAT IT MAY BE WELL WITH YOU, AND THAT YOU MAY LIVE LONG ON THE EARTH.
But there is several things that are over looked about pushing this bible text on your children.
Let me ask you this Dad. What would happen if you preach this to your wife?
Col 3:18 Wives, submit to your own husbands, as is fitting in the Lord.
I have tried this on a occasion or two. I have asked other men about it. They all laugh In other words it is a good way to get your self put in the dog house. This is NOT something we should go yelling at our wives. (This will be talked about on another blog)
We know that yelling at our wives about that bible verse makes her mad in many senses you would be provoking a fight with her. Very very few women will tolerate having this shoved down their throat . But we yell at our kids all the time. "Bible says obey your parents. So we shout this verse at our kids and expect a good reaction out of them when we know for a fact that our wives will refused to cook dinner for a week over this. Why do women react so badly after all its just the bible right? Because it is a insult its is flat out provoking your wife.
Eph 6:4 And, fathers, do not provoke your children to anger; but bring them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord.
Notice the Key words "do NOT provoke" (emphasis added) The question should become then How do we correct with out provoking?
Eph 4:15 but speaking the truth in love, we are to grow up in all aspects into Him, who is the head, even Christ,
Eph 4:16 from whom the whole body, being fitted and held together by that which every joint supplies, according to the proper working of each individual part, causes the growth of the body for the building up of itself in love.
1Co 13:4 Love is patient, love is kind, and is not jealous; love does not brag and is not arrogant,
1Co 13:5 does not act unbecomingly; it does not seek its own, is not provoked, does not take into account a wrong suffered,
1Co 13:6 does not rejoice in unrighteousness, but rejoices with the truth;
1Co 13:7 bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.
The next time you feel the urge to let your kids have it ponder their reaction to it. If you yell and holler and boss them around in a non loving fashion this is provoking them is it not? If your boss comes up yelling screaming and cussing at you what do you feel like? Humiliated put down discounted and with out value. And it is only fear of the loss of your job that restrains you from turning right around and giving your boss what he is giving you. I have even felt extreme anger because of a boss treating me badly. hoping that they get a flat tire on the way home from work or that they get a ticket for one mile an hour over. People flat out hate being humiliated. Your kids are no different. If you come up to your kid and shout at them something like "I can't believe you did something so stupid." In their mind you just said kid your stupid. Then they get angry in anger they react in disobedience. Even if it is just in there own minds by simply thinking I hate my parents. God hears that even when you don't. By them hating you they are NOT honoring you. And that takes away the promise that was offered. And you provoked it.
If you are not correcting your child in love then you are provoking to anger. Which means that you are acting as a stumbling block to your child.
Mat 18:6 but whoever causes one of these little ones who believe in Me to stumble, it is better for him that a heavy millstone be hung around his neck, and that he be drowned in the depth of the sea.
A finishing suggestion. Next time you need to correct your children. Stop and pray about it pick your bible ask God to lead you to verses that just might help you know what to do. And ask HIM simply Lord what is the appropriate reaction to this. In many cases you might just find that it simply is not worth the argument because it just might be to petty.
Footnote
All bible next was from Nasb printed 1977. All bible text is in red to help differentiate from my words and the official bible text. It does NOT indicate that Jesus stated it.
Thursday, August 18, 2011
A Hunger For Yahweh's Providence.
How much do we as followers of Yeshua (Jesus) really hunger for His providence? I have met a few that did over the years. But not to many. I suddenly realized in a time of great physical hunger, how much we should be craving His providence in all things. I must admit at this point that if you have a hard time understanding any of this, it may be in part to low blood sugar. I apologize for any short comings in this writing. As I sat thinking over the predicament I remembered the verse "I can do all things through Christ who gives me strength". I also remembered some words on this topic by Paul Washer All things can mean enduring a time of hunger. And I began to see how much we as followers of Yeshua should be depending on His providence in our lives for everything. Not just in a time when food is scarce.
Right now I am facing another great need in my life one that is just as or maybe even more important than my physical hunger. That is a greater understanding of Yahweh's love. I was talking to a friend some months ago about this topic and he had this to say which I have spent allot of time thinking about. " I do feel the love of God. His love is real to me. It is revealed in many ways but one of the easiest to find would be through my wife and children" I marveled at this because this was exactly my desire. To know Adonia's love through my wife. ( My wife left me and I am hoping to find a godly woman to fill the emptiness that she never desired to.) In this time of physical hunger I realized I am craving Adonia's love as much as food right now. I crave the gift of companionship as deeply as food. (I have not had a solid nutritious meal in several days.) But most importantly I am wanting the fulfilling of some biblical promises.
Ps 37:7 is just one of them. In realizing that Yahweh is not the great red suited gift giver I decided to not focus on the promise in verses like this, but rather the commands in the verses. "Delight yourself in the Lord." This has been a real struggle. Taking joy in Adonia when He feels so distant on a day to day basis. Soon I started craving even more than food and a bride was to be able to take pleasure in Adonia (The Lord)for who He is as well as what He does. Don't get me wrong I still would about step over a mean dog for a cheese burger with pickles and a side of fries. I would try and swim the english channel for the love I desire (LU) and I can't swim well enough to cross a swimming pool. I believe with all that I am that the greatest pleasure in this world and the next is Yeshua himself. And the reason we do what we do as followers of Yeshua is the pursuit of that pleasure. I believe to obey out of duty or fear and nothing more is to show a disinterest in the nature and character of Yahweh. Think about it this way. If a man does something for his wife based on fear of her anger he has a begrudging attitude and it is reflecting at her and causes emotional strife. However if he does the same action with the attitude of giving his wife pleasure this to will be revealed to her. I personally would rather my wife feel that I am doing what I am doing to give her pleasure and hopefully she will reciprocate. Hello cheese burger! "Sweety can I have desert later please?" So I hope you get the just on what I am trying to get across.
If you would like a deeper look please check out the book Desiring God by John Piper. If you have the desperate feeling I don't want to do that consider the book When I don't desire God. Also by John Piper. This is the book I read first myself.
Wednesday, August 17, 2011
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