In answer to this question I had created an outline that I was going to make into a video but because of a promise made to the woman who inspired this blog I am moving ahead with a printed format. There are 5 points to answer this question.
A:It is not that they are taken, the problem is that they are no longer being made anymore. Women have a certain way they all want to be treated. And in the basic aspects that treatment is the same no matter what woman we are talking about. The problem is that the secular world has infiltrated the biblical man to such a degree he is no longer standing on his faith seeking the face of his Adonai, but rather trying to find ways of justifying his sinful thought life and behavior and therefore constantly focusing on a self centered motivation for the remaining balance of his life.
What do all women want in a man?
B:Identifying a good man when you see one.
The answer to this can be found in the bible. If you do not support belief in the bible please set that aside and just look at the aspects that are being talked about in this section.
Gal 5:22-24 Is a listing of the fruits of the spirit. And the desire of any woman alive. Love, joy, peace, long suffering, gentleness, goodness, faith, Meekness, and temperance. Lets break this list down and give the reader some definition. The love talked about here is not the what we Americans understand as love. The words originally used was agape/agapo. This has a huge explanation behind it and I am going to simplify it as best I can. Women know they are sexually desirable, they also get the idea that some of us men want to be friends with them. These are two forms of love that are easy. The last gets complicated. This kind of love is a love of sacrifice. It is about setting pride down and not focusing on selfish desire. It is about giving what your spouse needs especially when they don't seemingly deserve it. Lets skip a few in the list and land on long suffering. This is one of the things that men really really struggle with. This is where the mercy and compassion of your man will either stand or fall. Most people of today can't even define long suffering as anything other than suffering and there for they stand against it. And there spouse pays the price. What is long suffering? Real simple its when you (the woman) have said some barbed tongue comment that was a little over kill at some stupid thing he may or may not have done they way you thought it should have been done, and his response is not scorn returned or lashing out in any way. But to speak to you using the rest of the list. So picture that you have said something to him that was down right mean And his response reflects these traits. gentleness, goodness, faith (in you),joy, peace and temperance (remaining calm instead of letting his anger get the better of him). Yet in that list there is one missing, meekness. And this is just as important as the others but needs to be defined. So in his answer to you he has reflected not only those traits above but also instead of wining at you for being mean he responds in meekness. Meaning he does not complain at what you have said he gives you a soft loving reply instead of a counter attack. Whether it be passive or aggressive in nature.
It is believed by most Christians that the fruits of the spirit can not be manifest in a persons life unless God places them there. Meaning that a person needs to be a faithful believer. I personally agree with this idea however you are welcome to attempt to embrace these unselfish traits with out it and test it out for yourself.
C:Do you really want a good man /D:Mistakes
The real question is do you want what comes with a man like this? Yes he will treat you well but he is also going to stand on some solid principles and rules that he will not fault from. For instants if you decide you want him sexually before marriage you will either get an answer of no, or you causing a temptation that will cause him to stumble. If he does stumble the fruits of the spirit will begin to melt away and he will no longer be the good man you desired in the first place. He will also not let you be cruel to others. He may even protect you from yourself. Such as by not letting you attack a long time friend and ruin the friendship just because your friend did something to tick you off. He will do what he can to get you to default to the list above. Yes ladies that list is also the same list of measure to tell whether you are a good woman or not.
E:How to begin keeping a good man and help him stay that way.
The answer to this is found in two ways I am not going to address either of them. I am going to find a woman who can answer this question. Because I am a man I have no clue how a woman should reflect the fruits of the spirit to her man. Nor do I have any idea what a proverbs woman really is or what motivates her to be one. All I know is that I trust the bible and therefore I personally desire a woman who at least wants to be a proverbs woman. I will be asking some women in the near future to complete the last piece. But I really have no clue if I will be able to find one.
If I find one either she will comment on this article or there will be a part 2 which ever she chooses to do.
I do know of one proverbs woman. But alas even a proverbs woman can be hurt and right now she is in a place of deep pain. I know this because this is the woman who has captured my heart and I pray for her daily in faith waiting for my Adonai to open that door if He will. I dare say When my dad gave his blessing as long as I remain in the words above, this was a major stepping stone in my believing I should wait for her and her alone.
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